I also have an 18 month old and 1 month old. I too have never been small, however I am bigger than you. I gained a bunch of weight after we got married and then we had our honeymoon baby. I'm glad to see another mom with a similar situation on the forum. Maybe we can try to keep up with each other and offer some encouragment when we are ready to pull our hair out with 2 children; both of mine our boys, are yours? You can e-mail me at space248@cox.net; if you would like.
Tammy
Hi every one! I am a new mom of a 9 month old I was a little over weight before I had him, but now I feel as if this outrageous! I wan t to be healthy for him. I started losing the weight a few months ago, and then I had a really bad crash. I am a single mom, I work about 30 hours per week, and I am in school, it is very difficult for me to exercise an deat right because I barely hav enough time. Either I miss meals and when I do eat I overeat. PLEASE HELP I don't want to be fat any longer.
Hi. You certainly have a lot going on, but you are doing a great job. While getting my master’s degree and working full time, I found it almost impossible to do anything, let alone take care of a child. I am married, work full time, and I am a mother to my 6 month old daughter. I understand that you barely have enough to time to do anything. But we are all here to support each other, give each other tips, and just to listen.
I gained 65 pounds with my pregnancy and I lost 60 pounds without even trying. I dedicated myself to losing the remaining 5 pounds of pregnancy weight, plus the 5-10 pounds I need to lose to getting to my ideal weight. It has been a week and a half I have lost 1.5 pounds so far. However, I am not following the Slimfast plan. I am changing my eating habits gradually by choosing better “real” foods, practicing portion control, and starting to ease back into exercise after having a C-section. I have been drinking the shakes for 1 meal 4-5 times a week.
It has been difficult, but I just start to make small changes that can fit into my schedule. Let us know if there is anything we can do to help you. This has been a very supportive community.
hi, to all you new moms. I was glad to see this as I am also a new mom and have a real desire to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight of 130. I am now 148. I have a three mo. old girl who was born via c-section. When I try to exersize reg. the muscels around my insision start to hurt. Any of you had the same thing-is this normal and if so how long did it take till you felt perfect and could do anything you wanted? I would like to try the Slim-Fast but wonder if I will get all I need as I am fully nursing my baby. Maybe I should wait till she is weaned. Anyone care to share any experience in this I would be glad to hear. I encourage all of you to stick to your goals. We as woman were made to be beautiful (each in our indiviual ways). We can became beautiful woman together.
I don't have any worthwile suggestions. My third baby (now 2yrs old) was the same. I always sleep with and nurse my babies and he was the only one who relied on the nursing for comfort at night. I was working full time and I think he just needed that to make up for being apart during the day. Unfortunately...he didn't sleep through the night until he was 17 months old and completely weaned. The weaning process was hard for him. Once he was one, I tried the 'don't offer, don't refuse' method during the day. Most of the time I could offer him cows milk or distract him but he could be pretty stubborn. Luckily my milk started to dry up when I became pregnant again and he just accepted it. My first 2 babies and now my 2month old do not have the same problem, so I think it was just his personality. Once he was weaned he slept through the night..just like that. Good luck, hang in there and know you are a great mom!
Thanks! I love having the "family bed" so I figured I'll just tough it out. She wont be a baby forever, and I'm sure one day I'll think back and miss the time when it was so easy to make everything better. I was on a parentlng website recently and read a post from a woman with a similar issue, and someone told her that she should feel privleged that all her baby wanted was to be close to her and that she could make her baby feel safe and secure just by nursing her.... So that kind of helped me too. I guess because I was still nursing my first baby when I got pregnant with the second, I've been feeling like I'm ready for my breasts to be MINE again =) (And also for them to be a normal size again..... but that's another story.....) But I realize it will be better for my daughter if I just sort-of follow her lead for now and let her do what she needs to do.
Congratulations on your new baby!
I'm in the same boat as you! I just had our second baby (well, seven months ago) and now I'm weighing 196pds. I eat because of stress, I have no time for exercise, and I'm just tired all the time. We have seven cats, two dogs and now two kids. You'd think they'd give me enough exercise!
My poor baby isn't sleeping through the night yet. Isn't that odd?
Hi there,
Im new to this site.
I had a baby boy in december. He is now 6 months old.
I gained a whole 50 pounds when I was pregnant. I was giving every excuse to eat whatever I wanted and how much of whatever I wanted.
Needless to say, I was a piggie. :)
Now, Im ready to get rid of it FOR GOOD and never put it back on.
I have about 40 more pounds or so to lose.
Send me a message if you'd like to talk.
I don't think it's odd that your baby isn't sleeping through the night yet. My two are complete opposites; what's normal for one is strange for the other. When my two year old was around 6 months old, she would wake up between 2-4 am, stay awake about 4-6 hours, then go back to bed and sleep another 4 hours. Since she was my only baby at the time, I just slept when she slept. We would have visitors at noon sometimes, and I'd be in bed with the baby =) But my 9-month old has been sleeping from 10 pm to 8 am since she was a few weeks old (waking me up to put a boob in her mouth every now and then, of course!) =) Has your baby cut any teeth yet? My baby will be 10 months on the 7th, and she is just now trying to get her first one through.
Shaina is right about that...
babies are all different, but what helps a lot is trying to put the baby on a schedual. Sometimes it can be hard, but thats what I did, and since my son is on a schedual he sleeps 10 to 12 hours straight a night.
Before he was getting up atleast 3 times. As well, oif your breastfeeding your baby, he or she will wake up more often. It doesnt fill up as much. Dont get discouraged, it will get better.
My son is 6 months old now, and he has 2 teeth on the bottom and cutting a 3rd one on top.
It will come.
Carine.
Shaina: I don't think it's odd that your baby isn't sleeping through the night yet. My two are complete opposites; what's normal for one is strange for the other. When my two year old was around 6 months old, she would wake up between 2-4 am, stay awake about 4-6 hours, then go back to bed and sleep another 4 hours. Since she was my only baby at the time, I just slept when she slept. We would have visitors at noon sometimes, and I'd be in bed with the baby =) But my 9-month old has been sleeping from 10 pm to 8 am since she was a few weeks old (waking me up to put a boob in her mouth every now and then, of course!) =) Has your baby cut any teeth yet? My baby will be 10 months on the 7th, and she is just now trying to get her first one through.
Thank you for the reply! She cut two teeth through months of crying! lol At 8mths that isn't half bad, right? Now if she would only stop biting!
I'm glad to hear that it isn't odd about her waking up throughout the night. We did the family bed thing and around the time she went into the crib was when the teething started. Bad timing! But she was scooting and it was a safety issue. Of course now I just fall asleep with her on my chest on the couch. :-( It's killing me because I can't nap during the day for some reason.
Wow, two teeth already? I love that phase, when they grin and they have those little bitty teeth showing =) Aly's first tooth is just barely poking through, and I think it is still bothering her. We're going to my mother-in-laws house for the weekend, and I just remembered I better pack her Anbesol. How old is your oldest? Sometimes, if I'm tired, I'll try to get both of my kids to nap at the same time. Of course, they usually don't both go to sleep, but I can get about 15 or 20 minutes of "quiet time" lying on the bed, and that can be enough to help get me through the afternoon. Sometimes I feel like even though I have been in bed for 8 hours, it only feels like 5 since it was broken into sections.
Can I use this space to vent? It isn't diet realated, but it's sort-of kid related..... We were supposed to go to my mother-in-law's house for the weekend and have a barbeque tomorrow. So, I got our suitcase packed and had my toddler all excited about seeing Mimi. When my husband got home from work yesterday, he showered and all then called his mom..... She "forgot" we were coming and was out of town. It wouldn't be that big of a deal, I guess, except that when it comes to my kids, she always "forgets" or can't make it. But my husband's sister has two boys, and if it has anything to do with them, she's all over it. I know it isn't unusual for a mother to be closer to her daughter's children, but this woman will drive by my house to get to those boys three or four times a week and never stop. How often does she see my kids? Once every three or four months, when we bring them to her house; and she's always too "busy" cleaning or cooking to play with them or spend time with them. (We don't take them over there much because her house is immaculate and she has knick-knacks everywhere that she doesn't want my kids to touch, and she usually gets pissed off at them for making messes......) She hasn't seen my baby trying to walk, or heard any of her little "words"; she doesn't know anything about my two-year old..... My kids barely even know who she is. And I don't really care much myself, but I care for my husband because it hurts him to see his mother acting this way, and I care for my kids because it isn't fair to them. I don't know what I'm going to say to this woman. I try to be so nice to her, so she will feel like she's welcome here and treat my kids nice, but I feel like it hasn't done any good, so why bother? I don't know........... Are there any grandmothers out there who can explain this woman's behavior or put in a good word for her so I don't want to be so irritated with her?
thats awful,
this woman should love all her grand children the same way. It doesnt matter who their mother or father is...
Your children are her blood and she should be there for them. There is no excuse for that behavior, and you are absolutly correct when you say that its not fair to your children or husband. But its not fair to you as well.
One day, you are going to have to explain to your children why their grandmother is not there, or wasnt there for them during their childhood and you should not be having that conversation. Im not a grandmother so I cant talk on that behave, but im a new mother of a 6 1/2month old boy and I wish my husband's parents were here to spend some time with our child, but they live in New Brunswick, Canada.
She has to realize the precious time she should be spending with them...
It disappoints me just because some grand-parents want to be there and cant, but some are there and dont want to be...
I would just tell her that, straight out.
hope it helps. Goodluck.