Thanks for your reply. It's too bad we can't trade situations.... I wouldn't mind it if my mother-in-law moved to Canada =)
She actually just left my house. She took her daughter grocery shopping, and my sister-in-law wanted to stop by here to see my kids, and to let her kids play with them. So, my mother-in-law stopped in for about two minutes to use my bathroom and ask me why we didn't come over yesterday.... I sort-of stuttered something less than truthful, but I didn't feel like it was the right time to tell her how I felt. (My husband wasn't here, and I would rather have him talk to her, because she will still love HIM when she's done being pissed off.) Maybe I should have told her the truth. But I was trying to be "nice"; I guess if someone doesn't like me, it makes me try that much harder to get them to. But, like I said, two minutes later, she decided that she needed to "hurry up" and get to my sister-in-law's to unload the groceries. My sister-in-law and her kids stayed for about an hour and a half, though, so whatever the problem is, it's just my mother-in-law that feels that way. Basically, she peed, scared my baby, and left =) She could have just kept driving instead of doing that......
Seriously, to me, thats kinda rude.
its just too bad that your children wont know their grand mother as much as they should.
I would have your husband talk to her. its better that way. Its something natural to him.
Goodluck with the whole situation.
talk soon.
My husband said he just won't mention her in front of the kids anymore, and if they end up not knowing who she is, it will be her own fault. He doesn't think there is anything else to say to her (he has tried talking to her in the past about it) so he is just leaving it up to her. I don't want my girls to feel like they missed out on something when they're older, but I can't force anyone to have a relationship with them.... And when MIL realizes what she's done, I am pretty sure she will find some way to blame it on me.... But I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens. Maybe she will come to her senses someday =)
Thanks for letting me vent. I was seriously pissed at her this weekend. I talked to my mom some, but it wouldn't be fair to my MIL if my mom's opinion of her was based on the things I had to say about her, so I try to just keep it general and without the whiny tone. =) (I'm sure there are people out there who would say she's a nice person. I'm just not one of them.) =)
You are probably right, its the best thing to do. She might turn around someday.
And about the venting, dont worry about it. Everyone needs to express the way they feel and Im very happy to be here to listen.
Vent anytime. :)
Carine.
I had my son last Sept. 07, I decided to nurse, thinking it would help me lose weight, but i didnt lose any. In January, I started Slim Fast, lost about 18 lbs, but being an army wife with no outlets of help at all, gave up, my husbands unit was pending a deployment(which now hes getting out of the army on med.discharge) so i was pretty much on my own, and have no friends within a 1000 mile radius. Now, i've gained it all back(well the 18 i lost!) but i just hate the way i look. My baby roll is not budging, so today i've started back on Slim Fast. I just need the motivation, and are their any other stay at home moms that are in the same boat, no help with the little ones? Im starting to go on walks, i figure its good for both of us, but still, i hate the scale and my body right now, i weight 219 and am miserable! I know this is gonna take alot of time and patience, but i really want and need to lose this weight. I would like to get down to 150, that would be awesome! Well, feel free to add me to your buddies! Melanie
Hi Mommies!
I'm new to the Slim Fast website, but I've loved the diet for years. I'm 20 and just had my first son 2 months ago. I'm 5'8" and was 135 before the baby. That put me in size 4 jeans. That was my perfect weight and I miss it dearly. I'm 166 now, so I need to lose 30 pounds. It seems like such an overwhelming number. I've never needed to lose more than 10-15 pounds. Ever. My husband is in the Army and deployed in Iraq right now. He was home for the birth, and swore I was still sexy the day after I gave birth. But I know he's lying. I am miserable this big and desperate to be back in shape. Not only for him, but for my own self esteem. He will be home in January and I'm giving it everything I've got to be thin again by then. I think it will be a nice suprise for him. I'm also doing the Carmen Electra Stiptease Aerobics for my cardio everyday and taking PatenTrim. Any other Army Wives/Moms here, please add me to your friends. I'de love to chat.
I'm new to the Slim Fast website, but I've loved the diet for years. I'm 20 and just had my first son 2 months ago. I'm 5'8" and was 135 before the baby. That put me in size 4 jeans. That was my perfect weight and I miss it dearly. I'm 166 now, so I need to lose 30 pounds. It seems like such an overwhelming number. I've never needed to lose more than 10-15 pounds. Ever. My husband is in the Army and deployed in Iraq right now. He was home for the birth, and swore I was still sexy the day after I gave birth. But I know he's lying. I am miserable this big and desperate to be back in shape. Not only for him, but for my own self esteem. He will be home in January and I'm giving it everything I've got to be thin again by then. I think it will be a nice suprise for him. I'm also doing the Carmen Electra Stiptease Aerobics for my cardio everyday and taking PatenTrim. Any other Army Wives/Moms here, please add me to your friends. I'd love to chat.
Hi Emily,
I know you can lose the weight you need to before hubby comes back. You probably look super hot right now and don't even know it. You are so yount that the weight will probably be easy to lose. Does the patentrim work? Kim
I really do think PatenTrim works. I mean, it's hard to know since I'm working out and eating so little, but I am losing weight. Also, it doesn't make me feel crazy taking it. You know, the jitters and headaches. None of that. And thank you, you are too sweet.
Hey there! First let me say MY HUSBAND AND I LOVE THE SKINNY COW ICE CREAM SANDWICHES! We literally groan outloud when our local grocer is out!
Anyway, I'm so happy to see this thread. I have to admit, the very few times I've attempted to stay consistant on a message board, I seem to drop off the face of the earth. Not anymore! As a new mom to my 8 month old daughter, Kennedy, I realize that I truly need support, to be a part of a larger group, all of us striving for the same thing, as well as going thru a lot of the same struggles.
I'd love to make some new online friends. Here's a little about myself: I'm 32 yr old, I was a nanny for 14 years before becoming a mom. I volunteered as a crisis counselor for 4 years in the SF Bay area, as well as a Court Appointed Child Advocate. I always get called "the little mother", which at times has been meant as an insult. I decided to embrace that label and got a tatoo when I was 23 that says "nurture" in Chinese. My boyfriend, now husband, was not happy, but I was, and still am. I thought I should get something that will always define me.
I have 3 amazing teenage brothers who have always been more like sons to me. We lost our parents very early on to drug abuse. I say lost, although they are still alive, we don't have any contact with them. It's just as well, I don't want my brothers to go thru the chaos of having our parents come in and out of their lives, getting their hopes up and then disappearing for months. I try to always stress to them that we have to take care of each other, that we can be strong if we choose to be. I also think it's important that they understand that family is who you love and who loves you back, forget about the labels.
My biggest problem with dieting/fitness is keeping my motivation going. It's so easy to get overwhelmed by the day to day grind. I need to remember that eating right and exercising will make my day easier, not harder, in the long run. It's such a mental thing, isn't it?
Well, enough about me. I vow to check the boards at least every other day. I'd love to "meet" some of you, please add me to your buddy list if I seem like someone you'd click with.
Oh, and the picture? That's my dog, Jack. I was never, ever a dog person before him. We found him thru petfinder.org about 2 years ago, and I can't imagine life without him. If any of you are thinking about getting a pet, please check out the site. There are sooooo many great animals out there who need good families. You really will be saving a life.
Hi All!!!
My daughter is two years old (I'm 35), and I found it easy to loose the weight after she was born, but now she has left overs on her plate, so I finish them for her, and she loves McDonalds--of course she liked the apples and french fries, but I get a Big Mac... I have gained 25 lbs in the past 6 months. I decided this morning it was going to stop. When she wakes up from her nap we are taking the shoping list I just printed, and going to the store and getting some healty food and some Slim Fast. I have never been so jiggly in my life. The back fat is the worst. I hope I can stay on track... Good luck to every Mom of all ages who is trying to loose weight.
My baby is 6 weeks old. I have about 20 lbs to lose. With my first I was successful at losing the weight with slimfast but did not have as much to lose. With this last pregnancy I was not allowed to exercise like I had in the past so as you guys know the body gets a little flabby. So I am trying to increase my exercise even though it is difficult when still not getting much sleep and managing a preschooler too!
Good Luck!
Melissa
I totally know what you mean about eating the kids' leftovers!! I got into that bad habit after my second was born and that's why this last bit of baby weight just wasn't budging. Now that I've lost these first 5 with slimfast, I'm not picking at my boys' food anymore. I'm ok with throwing it away or bagging it for them to try at again later. Anyway, I hope this thread continues!!! Kim (40 yrs. old w/18 month & 3 1/2 year old boys, need to loose about 11 lbs now).
I had my son 9 months ago, and I have not had the opportunity to lose the weight. I am in the Army so I am always on the run, I gained about 50 LBS when I had my son. I would love to get this weight off. I know people think that it would be easier because I am in the Army, but I am always working. I would love to lose like 50 LBS if not more. It is good to know that there are other women that are trying to lose baby fat as well.
ughhhh.....Ladies ladies! Like if its not hard already being a mom. Especially a brand new mom. The baby weight has really got me feelin them post partum blues along with my soggy skin and hiddeous stretch marks. (sorry for all the info lol) im looking for lots of "mommy support" so please feel free to add me as a friend,....so we can support each other! Its really hard doing this alone. whos has time to run for an hour when your by yourself with a newborn. when my kids sleeping all i wanna do is sleep too. Instead im washing dishes, clothes and cleaning! This is so hard! Any advice?