hi!

this is woe. i would like for to be your buddy. i do need someone to talk to over this thing i have in my head. i look in the mirror and cry. i can't walk by it without getting so upset. i feel sometimes like i am failing. i lost 95 pounds and then it just stops. i guess that is why i need someone to discuss this stuff with. i exercised for five hours today. i guess i wanted to make up for eating like a pig. i think your kids do pickup stuff from you. i have a daughter who picked up my anorexic state when she was a baby.  my weight has always been controled by the people around me. i know that it is wrong. just keep reminding your daughter of how beautiful she is.  this will help with the selfesteem part. see if yoiu can get her to start talking to you about what bothers her. this will take her stress level down and you will know more about what is going on in her heart and mind through all this. you are her best friend and she needs you. i am trying to keep my cool. things are messed up in my life right now. my church closed down, i graduated from college and now can''t work because i have done perminent damage to the back. i wish i had a mom like you that cares. the only thing my mother cares about is making me cry by saying it is all my fault. she is not very supportive. she don't understand she helped alittle from giving me a bottle or food whenever i was upset. that is what is going on with my eating. i just have to learn to be more carefull. part of my stress is i am living on dissability and bills keep pouring in. i don't believe in quick fixes but food is all i have. i have an appointment to see a counselor on thursday. keep lines all lines opened for your daughter, i didn''t and almost lost my to eatingdisorder because sh didn't want to be faT LIKE ME. i should have really listened to her.

thank you for listening. by the way i am giving you a   compliment on you mothering. i think you are doing things right!

woe

Remember this....you are stronger than you think!!  Believe in yourself and the power that you have in your life.  Bad situations are always going to be a part of life...it is what you do with those situations that makes you such a unique person....never give up and have faith in who you are....the road is not easy, but the journey is so worth it all....find yourself and live to enjoy life.  Stay strong!  Hugs, SisterC

in 1997, I had a very bad unplanded pregnancy, the details are not worth sharing, because the outcome was my beautiful daughter.  But, living with this life changing event was hard and stressful.  Food literally became my drug.  I got my "fix" from food and just like a drug after you come down from your high you want more and MORE.  Maybe numbness would be a better use of what I was using food for.  I wanted to be completely numb to a lot of situations I needed to face and deal with.  In my pregnancy I gained 100 pounds and continued to gain over the next 11 years... Yes 11 years now.  I'm just now getting on a scale.  I just over the past year have finnaly did the healing it took to get me to this place though. 

Point of this is be careful.  The quick fixes that make you feel good at the moment will hurt you over time.  Continue to use food as a way to cope and one day you will wake up from a fog, much larger than you are now with a 12-year-old daughter, with all the same problems and issues you had when she was just a toddler.  Be brave, take on today and start living your future today, not trying to numb your past.  Please just keep up all the hard work you've done. 

While this is not the best of situations, no way on earth can he be FORCING you to eat. Keep that in mind. You were strong enough to leave a bad marriage, you are strong enough to make wise choices.

I need help.  Well, actually, I need a new job.  I am thankful that in this economy that I have a job.  However, I work with my ex husband.  We get along fine.  But only because we have a 3 year old daughter.  If it weren't for her, we would go our seperate ways.  My problem is, I see him ALL the time.  His car is parked right outside my window.  I see him at staff meetings and luncheons or run into him at the vending machine.  (I know, I know.  Vending machines are bad, but at least I get animal crackers and not Cheetos!)  Every time I see him, I am reminded of the not so pleasant things he did while we were married and what he has done since we split.  I would much prefer to forget all about that and all about him. But it's hard when I see him ALL the time.  Therefore, I stress eat a lot at work.  Most days I do pretty good, but other days it just throws me into a tizzy and I don't care what I put into my body.  Does anyone have any suggestions to help me control my stress/anger eating while at work?  I try so hard and then relapse and gain whatver I've lost back.  It's so frustrating!