Over 100 Pounds to Go

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

GM50 — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 15:03:53 GMT

Hey Living4Today, I thought of a wonderful challenge for you (if you choose to accept this mission). :-)

You know, a lot of people might join our Community Group as part of their New Year's Resolution. Since you are a writer, how about you write a 'Welcome' post for them? (no pressure - just a thought) ~ bye, GM50

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

GM50 — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 14:58:10 GMT

Hi Living4Today, :-) Hey, when you get a chance, do another post. Let us know how you are doing. Remember, we are all here for each other. Hope to hear from you soon. Have a Happy New Year! :-) ~ GM50

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

grandmalynda — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 22:41:32 GMT

You say that this is so very depressing. Don't take that lightly. I have been in a full-blown clinically depressed for almost 6 years now. My weight didn't matter, nothing did. Then I woke up about 6 months ago and realized that I was eating, and sleeping the rest of my precious days away. You're only 20, I'm 56 and don't have as much to look forward to as you do. But gosh darnit I'm going to make the next 20 years count. If you need help with the depression get it. It will only hold you back. Free yourself and get moving on to all the wonderful things in store for you. Stay committed to the group and the plan and you won't be doing this again. You'll be too busy living a happy, healthy, productive life.

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

GM50 — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 16:10:41 GMT

Hi Living4Today, This is the last suggestion that I'll have for this week. (If you chose to accept this mission). :-) Let's hear your ideas for ways that you can do a better job of being successful in your weight loss journey.

CHALLENGE #3 - 1. Today, weigh yourself. Don't weigh again for two weeks. 2. Every morning, when you wake up, say out loud, "I'm living for today". "Today, I will ______ and __________ to lose weight". 3. When you brush your teeth, look in the mirror and make 'goo-goo eyes', 'kissy lips', and 'bunny rabbit nose wiggles'. (All of this should help you 'lighten up' and smile). 4. Get a manicure. 5. Get a theme song. If you don't have one yet, how about using Miley Cyrus' song "The Climb", until you get a theme song of your own. 6. Dance by yourself at home. 7. Take a tour through your town. Make a list of things that you like about your town. There has to be at least one thing. :-) ~ OK, I'm out! GM50

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

GM50 — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:15:58 GMT

Hi Living4Today, Here's your next Challenge (if you chose to accept this mission). :-)

CHALLENGE #2 - Go to MTV 'Made'. Look at every episode of 'Made'. Take notes on how they accomplished their goals, by their deadlines. Imagine that you are the next star of 'Made'. What do you want to be Made into? ________________ Living4Today, it's time to live up to your User Name. :-) It's time to get excited about your fabulous life. Get to work! :-) bye, GM50

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

GM50 — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 14:54:56 GMT

Hi Living4Today, 1. Almost one month ago, you PLANNED to go to your local YMCA. YEAH!!!! Congratulations!! Did you go? 2. You THOUGHT that you would be nervous around the people in the YMCA. Were you nervous? 3. You said that WRITING WAS your PASSION, but you stopped writing. Could it be possible that writing is STILL YOUR PASSION? 4. You said that you are embarrassed by the way you look, but you put an exclamation mark after stating that you like your hair. :-) You also like your tiny hands, ears, feet, and nose. 5. You wrote a loaded sentence on Nov 12th: stating that ... you are 20 yrs old ... living on your own ... in a town that you can't stand ... you don't know anyone ... and you hated your life (at that time).

Well Living4Today, You've had difficulty staying motivated and committed to losing weight. Your feelings about that could contribute to feelings of depression. I challenge you to create a new approach to weight loss. Think about it. I'll think about it, too and come back soon with a list of specific challenges. So, fire up your computer (or get a pen and some paper) and let's get to work!

CHALLENGE #1 - Since YOU ARE A WRITER, I challenge you to start keeping a 'weight loss journey' journal. It could be helpful to you after you get down to your desired weight and YOU become the person who motivates others who struggle with weight loss. Since YOU ARE A WRITER, who knows, maybe your journal could become the foundation for a play, a novel, a freelance magazine article, your motivational speeches, your lesson plans, etc. You are a WRITER now. After you overcome your journey with weight loss you might become a PUBLIC SPEAKER. You are 20 years old! :-) That's wonderful!!! DREAM WITHOUT BOUNDARIES! Your weight loss journey can be whatever YOU want it to be, for any of the reasons that are important to noone else but YOU. (I'll write to you again before the end of next week). Get to work! Smile a lot! :-) Hopefully, you will add your smile to the list of things that you like about the way you look. :-) bye, GM50

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

sillysuzy — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 16:33:45 GMT

Thanks for bringing this back to the top of the board. I'm so glad I didn't miss this discussion. There's so much wrapped up here. I have lost weight before and I remember as the weight came off, feeling like I was losing some of my protection from the world. I wanted to be a wallflower, but at the same time, wanted to shed what allowed me that status. The complexity of being overweight is that like other addictions, our addiction is our comfort. The difference is, food is such a social gatherer - it's not illegal and so easy to access. I think I became seriously overweight for the first time right around 20, and I remember feeling so much like you - a new environment, far away from family. I remember my brother and his wife coming for a visit for the first time in a few years, and crying because I didn't want them to come. Instead of being excited for their arrival, I feared it, because I didn't want them to see me that way.

You do have to be happy with you. Even at my highest weight, I will still put on a swimsuit (with a little modesty skirt) and go for a swim. You can't let weight stop you from enjoying life - because then you get caught in the endless cycle that can trap you so easily. Set small goals for yourself and keep track of your accomplishments. Today a small walk, just to enjoy your environment. Just to enjoy your self. There's space in this world for overweight people. The more you think that way, the more you'll claim that space, enjoy it and eventually need less of it.

You can do this, but the wise ones who have posted before me, you need to change the way you think first or at the same time, otherwise the change is superficial and often temporary. I'm learning this - I hope - for the last time. So far I think I'm among the heaviest people in this group. After my second pregnancy, I find myself at 311 lbs! And I'm scared - my first major threshold is 100 lbs more than yours. And through diligence of action and - there's that word again - commitment to myself, along with the wisdom and insights on these boards, I will change.

I hope you'll stay with us for the long haul. I certainly plan to.

Thanks for opening these feelings and challenges up for discusssion.

- Suzy.

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

moochpookie — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 15:33:24 GMT

Since we have so many new people I am bumping this post forward. There are a lot of good ideas here. It got us all motivated! Suzanne

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

vixen09 — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:45:07 GMT

OP give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to realize there is a problem and you want to fix it. Emotional overeating is worst because you have to figure out healthier ways to deal with your problems. I love being creative so I'm working on a film and theater project for myself. Find something that you are passionate about and love to do that will take your mind off you situation but you must confront any serious issues you are dealing. Find someone you can talk to some outside support.

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

JENTORRES2006 — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:03:25 GMT

Hey there :)

Lets put this into prospective......you are aware of what is hurting you, emotionally and physically. For most people it takes a long time and sometimes never to figure out that once you get past the excuses, looks and even comments all you have left is you. I'm proud that you have come here and joined us in our battle and letting us help you in yours. I am proud of you for taking that step and admiting that you need help and I am proud of you..for being just that....YOU <3

xoxoxo

Jen

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

Living4Today — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:50:12 GMT

I read your post Jodie and I realized, sadly, I have never committed to anything. School, dieting, my future. When I was younger I used to write a lot. I mean A LOT! I was on my computer day in and day out night after night just typing away; writing was my life, my passion, but then one day I just stopped writing. I realize that I'm actually getting no one where unless I commit myself to something. I realize I need to lose my weight to be healthy and feel good about myself. I need to make excersise a part of my life as I made writing. Breathe, sleep, dream excerise!!! I'm actually going to the local YMCA today even though they'll probably be quite a few people in there and honestly will be shaking in my running shoes. I don't know why -lol- but people honestly make me nervous and I really do feel extremely embarassed around them, but even more importantly I've come to realize I want to feel good about myself. Can any reason for wanting to lose weight be okay? I mean if you're reasons on wanting to lose weight and look skinny and sexy is because of a certain guy or because you're extremely jealous about someone close to you and want to show them that you can be just as good looking, are these reasons selfish and maybe a bit over dramatic? Because honestly if I had motivation I would suppose those would be it right now... And to reply to sayeater's post, she wanted me to post 3 things I liked about myself (sorry if I messed up the post or anything - I'm new to forum use) but I would guess the top number one thing that I love about myself would be my hair! Next I would say I like my eyes, and last would be my tiny hands, ears, feet, and nose. I'm one of the biggest females in my family (both sides) and yet I have the smallest hands feet ears and nose, so that's something I am proud of. ^___^

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

moochpookie — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:42:53 GMT

I love your analogy to marriage. . the don't cheat on your spouse or yourself and the respect and everything. That is something we can all relate to. We are all worthy of the committment to a better life in all ways.

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

JodieHut — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:43:44 GMT

Suzanne, you used a word that has become my one and only reason for being able to stick to this plan long-term..... COMMIT. I recently read a self-help book that talked about this. Basically, no diet will work if you don't commit to it. I remember reading that and really thinking about it for days. I asked myself, what does it mean to commit to a diet? I realized the only other thing in my life that I am truly committed to is my marriage. So, I tried to relate it to that. Committment means..... you dont cheat, and you dont put yourself in a situation where cheating can 'just happen.' It means you show respect, give attention, communicate positive messages. Now I get it! I have to change my relationship with myself and food.... and commit to it. So take a 'vow' to be a healthier person. I have to work on my marriage every day, so why not me? I'm worthy too.

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

moochpookie — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:09:13 GMT

Coni and Sayeater are right. You can't just want to loose weight, you have to DECIDE to loose weight. It is a choice. We have made a lot of bad choices in the past, but we have a great future in front of us. I am three times your age and now I can have a happy and active twenty years. You are so young and just thing of the wonderfully, successful, healthy and happy life you can have, if you committ to loosing your weight now. You have so much to gain and when you factor that in you have so little to loose. Start living your life and join us and make a commitment to yourself to take back your life. Do it now!

Re: Want to lose weight but can't be motivated

sayeater — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 13:41:07 GMT

Coni is right. We all have spent years worrying what other people think of us. You know the secret to successful people? They don't care what other people think of them. They make their own path in life and do things for themselves, not to make other people happy. I'll bet if you took a survey of all obese people it would show that 90% are dependent on other people's validation for their happiness. it's time to start thinking like a thin person. Get selfish, focus on yourself and heck with the rest of 'em. You are in control of you life, no one else!! I can tell you this right now, you cannot succeed unless you change your mindset. You have got to get positive and start being a cheerleader for yourself. It is hard for other people to love you when you don't love yourself and it's hard to commit to taking care of yourself if you don't love yourself. So for your homework you need to post here 3 things that you like about yourself. You can do it!! Start changing your life today!!